=~incomplete thoughts~= (Friday's post)
At times I wonder does time spent = love ? attention ? care ? development ?OoOOoOOo... shallow as it may seems, in-depth as you think... how do you actually equate this equation?
Hmn... as I stared blankly at my empty new post, I wonder what inspirations would come along the way for me to fill up this entry. Yeah.. and here it is! Something that I do ponder about once in a while after observing some things revolving around my love ones and even myself.
Well... time is something that is limited. All the time, humans find that we are usually running out of time. It's either we had not managed it well, thus resulting in a situation whereby we have arranged too many activites which are simply impossible for us to complete on that very single day. For others, it's because we can't seem to help it but to allow the habit of procrastinating things to reign our lives. Yup... I remember Hafizah once telling me this. " No time, Make time ". This logic is definitely true for all of us bah.
Ok... after defining all about time. Here I shall draw it back to the topic for today. hmn... does time spent = love? well, it is definitely subjective. Let's say between couples who are having a long-distant relationship, some may be able to pass this test, while others not. However, this process is definitely not undergone with a brisk. Of course it requires alot of discipline to resist the temptations around you. And here it is, the test of how strong is your love for the other party. Yup.. And also love between parents and children. Although some parents do not have enough time for their kids due to their hectic working schedules. However,love still does exist. And here what's lacking is the attention. The tendency for children to feel neglected is extremely high of course. And this also applies for couples or friends who simply do not keep in touch as often because either both or one of them is simply too busy with many other issues.
Time spent = care? How true can it be... Yes, time spent can be equated to the care showered on the people around u. At times, a simple sms of " How are you?" or "Do take care..." can actually brighten up one's day. FOr others, a simple phone call to keep in touch on how one is doing lately is also a form of care or concern. Well, for people who finds it hard to express themselves in words, it will be harder for them to take the initiative and to even express their inner feelings. They may care for you.. but they do not say it as often as u would wish to hear. For some of you, you may think that such words like " I miss u" for example, are simply superficial and what matters most is something that is expressed sincerely from the heart. Yesh... it's true. However, in this case, what does the existence of language mean then? The other party may understand your feelings but at times it's a little tiring to play all these 'guessing games'. Sometimes, it may even lead to misunderstandings etc.
Lastly, does time spent= development of friendships, relationships... ? YES! If we do not have enough time for the people around us especially our love ones, those that are special to u... in fact, it may tend to lead to awkward situations after not being in contact for a period of time or so. Have u ever been thrown into a situation whereby u simply have nothing else to talk about with the other party? If it is... then it's a warning sign for u guys to do something before the relationship starts to deterioriate. Every meeting with the people around u is another step for you to understand them better. And you can never stop understanding their character, feelings, and emotions. This is because we humans are vulnerable to the things happening around us thus we are subjected to changes. Changes in our mindsets, changes in our behaviour...etc.
As for me, sometimes I dislike the way things are... but certain situations are simply beyond our control. At times, we do experience internal tension and conflict. And it's in the mind. Not sure if u guys believe anot, we have a 'devil' and an 'angel' in our minds. We tend to struggle within ourselves. Whether you made the right decision, right choice... How do you foresee that things will develop? In your own opinion, what will be the outcome? Where are we heading for? Are things actually going right? Do you like the way things are? Is it just moments of happiness or what? How to face your downs in live? Where is the courage to pick up from that fall?
yeah... as you can see... there are so many qns that can keep running through our heads daily. And yes it definitely adds extra stress to one mentally. Especially for people who fall under the perfectionist category... they tend to hope for things to come to a happy ending. However, in reality... things may not always be the case. Sometimes, in a moment of impulse, we simply feel like giving up all that's happening. Something that may seem to be going fine on the surface, but simply it probably isn't as well as we deem. We can never expect everything to fall nicely as planned or wished.
Delicacy of the day:
"The happiest person is the person who thinks the most interesting thoughts."
